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Success Mindset

Stop Trying So Hard

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Stop trying so hard to be the person you think you need to be in order to reach success.

You want to know how to be truly successful, have it all, live a life most would only dream of? The bad news is I don’t know precisely what YOU need to do get there. The good news is that I can save you a lot of time by telling you this –

It sure as hell isn’t going to happen by trying to do what you think you need to do to get there.

Like me, right now. I’m trying to become a better blogger. I want to be recognised in a HUGE way for my work and for the difference I make in the world. So all weekend I’ve been studying some of my favourite successful bloggers, the way they write and get their message out there. I made COPIOUS notes. I’m always a good student 🙂 And then this morning, I sat down to begin My New Life In Which I Succeed On A World-wide Scale as a Blogger and Personal Development Leader. And I wrote probably the worst and most deeply BS filled rubbish I’ve evern managed to create in my life. It’s so bad I almost want to publish it just to demonstrate it’s awfulness to you. And not only is it truly an horrendous piece of writing, but writing it was just plain hard work and completely unenjoyable.

Nothing wrong with hard work. Anything worth achieveing and all that. But it should also feel RIGHT. And here’s where so many of us get it wrong, where I was getting it wrong this morning –

We look to our idols, to the people who’ve made a difference in the world and in OUR world and we assume that the way they did it, must be the way to do it.

This is why fitness models and basically anyone in great shape who has an online platform to preach from finds themselves inundated with requests to share their diet and training rituals.

It’s why we love reading about how celebrities or entrepreneurs achieved their success.

It’s why we assume that the best way to learn about business – or relationships – or money management – or anything – is by following a strategy set out by someone who is already doing what we wanna do.

And maybe it is, much of the time. There are definitely proven systems and strategies out there in any area of life that are worth following. People who’ve achieved what you want to achieve are absolutely worth looking to for inspiration and possible guidance.

But here’s where we get it oh so wrong-

(And we tend to ESPECIALLY do it with the people we most look up to)

– We assume that their way is the ONLY way, and if we set out to duplicate it and don’t succeed our default assumption is that there’s something wrong with us; that we’re not trying hard enough.

What if you were allowed to reach success on your terms?

What if all the paths to reaching it had not yet been determined, and you could pave the way yourself?

What if you could actually reach your goals by being MORE aligned with what feels right for you rather than by trying so hard to mold yourself into the person you think you have to be in order to succeed?

Might make life a lot easier, mightn’t it?

Might also make it more enjoyable to work on your goals, and certainly infinitely more rewarding to eventually reach them and know that you did so by being true to you.

Of course the flipside is that it’s scarier to figure it out yourself. And I certainly don’t mean to imply you should ignore lessons offered to you by others. Just understand that their way is not the only way. Take what works for you. Leave the rest. There’s no point achieving something, no matter how awesome it may be, if you have to stop being you in order to get there.

The bad news here is that really, when all is said and done, you have to figure this whole dream life thing out for yourself.

The good news of course is that really, when all is said and done, you get to figure this whole dream life thing out for yourself. You get to do it your way. And as much as you’ll always have to work hard to get there, you NEVER have to work hard for hard work’s sake. Learn to distinguish between what feels uncomfortable, challenging, but also RIGHT and what just seems plain wrong or a price you’re not willing to pay.

After all, it’s not really your dream life if to get there you have to stop being you.

Don’t forget –

Life is Now. Press Play.

Kat x

P.S.

You’ve become complacent.

Boring.

And stuck.

The things you used to get lit up, because they challenged and stretched you, just don’t do it for you anymore.

Sometimes you wish they would all just go away,

even though at the same time, infuriatingly, you still need to do them, perpetuate them, keep pushing them, because you don’t yet have the results you want.

Yes, you’ve come a long way.

Created epic shit.

BUILT.

Made money.

Made an impact.

But you’re not ‘there’ enough that you really feel like you can breathe easy, relax, let go, be free to JUST be you,

and, practicalities aside, you’re also just IRRITATED by this fact, because it’s just kind of BULLSHIT. You should be WAY further along by now! That’s just who you are! Don’t they KNOW who you are!

(as your soul whispers:
don’t YOU?)

Anyway. If you could just breathe a little easier, you could fuck all this shit up, and over. Move on to the deeper and truer work that YOU are really meant to be doing. Get off the damn hamster wheel of same saminess, and feel like you’re laying down DEEP roots, standing for something, ACTUALLY being different, and giving people something to talk about!

(giving YOU something to talk about, and feel alive for, is the truth of the matter!)

But,

even though you know the answer is just to step.off.the.fucking.train.

You don’t.

You REPEATEDLY do more of the same bullshit,

to the same little circle of people, heck, even though it obviously gets bigger and bigger as you go, it STILL just feels like the same little circle somehow,

and you do it all with some sort of vague idea that eventually you’ll be able to REALLY go all in on you.

On the visions you see inside of you of the NEW mountains to climb, to plant your flag on top of, mountains you haven’t even let yourself fully think about, let alone see!

But you know they’re out there.

And you know you can’t keep doing things this way.

Well,

it’s time for a change that will knock the worlds socks off, starting by YOU getting a swift kick in your front bottom (yeah I said that ;)) to wake you back up to who you actually are.

I’m launching my brand new marketing agency with 5 inaugural clients who I and my team will be working deeply and personally with to create and roll out a result-based plan for growth of a structured ‘cash machine’ which gets your message out to the WORLD, all while allowing you to be the polarising AF tear shit up and unleash truth at the world visionary you ARE, but yet simultaneously see continual growth being made for the long-term vision of your empire.

Maybe one of them is you.

Our company produces multiple 7-figures per year on repeat, and we do it with bells on and ONLY by fucking with business in a way that lights us up and excites us.

Following that inner FUCK yes, and ruthlessly shedding and shredding anything that doesn’t feel exiting, alive, different, truly US, and screw all the rules, is precisely why we’ve gotten to where our have,

and helped tens of thousands of clients around the world to do the same, through our numerous live and home-study courses and programs, as well as through private client mentoring, small high-level masterminds, and so on.

Now, for the first time ever, we’re taking what we do, and the systems, structures and processes we’ve developed which allow this whole thang to be a soul-led MACHINE, in terms of efficiency, creative development, and output, which in turn allows the resident genius (Kat) to be ever more in her creative bubble, thus just making it all work even BETTER, even FASTER,

and we’re going to work with you personally to show you where YOU need to make moves for massive growth,

massive fuck yes,

and deeper systems and roots that begin to do the work FOR you, so that you can get more of your TRUE wild message out to more of the RIGHT people, all while you get to stay in the lane of being you.

Interested, and want to know more?

Wild Bitch Marketing Agency has 5 places open for inaugural clients. We will be completely investigating the what and how of your business and how you run things, and then working with you personally to implement an outcome-based and highly specific plan that not only FEELS amazing and right, but also very clearly takes care of all the areas of growth you know you need to just get taken care of,

so that you can finally BREATHE fully, and just be more of you.

Apply here for more info, and to see if it’s a fit:

https://www.thekatrinaruthshow.com/wildbitchapplication