SCARED TO BE SEEN, REALLY SEEN? YOU’RE NOT ALONE, BUT ALSO … GTF OVER IT, OR GET OUT NOW

I spoke to a journalist this morning, about 40 minutes of question and answer relevant to every part of my story, and how I’ve built this business from the ground up; a dream which began 27 years ago, when at 11 years old, I picked up my first Tony Robbins.

A multi-million dollar EMPIRE built on a simple ‘knowing’ which passed through me all those years ago, that yes –

I was born for more.
I was going to do something extraordinary with my life.
And maybe I was even going to in some way change the world!

You too? Thought so … it’s always been that way for us, hasn’t it? The knowing … even long before we KNEW that we knew.

The thing is, I would never have built this business to where it is today had I not have quit letting my BULLSHIT be bigger than my dreams; finally said yes to stepping into the light and speaking my truth, ‘fuck what anybody had to say about it!’.

I guess I’m somewhat known for being unapologetically me, and certainly what I TEACH is to let the world see you, understand that sure, some people may not like it or may even judge it, but that ultimately this is the ONLY way your true peeps will find you. It’s also how it gets to be SO easy … what could be easier than just being you, all of you, in business AND in life?!

It’s easy for me to talk about this. I can preach about it all day long! And certainly I DO practice it, have practiced it, continue to practice it.

But yet …

There’s still that scared little girl part of me which comes out to play on occasion!

Perhaps you know her? Perhaps you’ve MET her? Perhaps she’s IN YOU TOO?!

And she says – when, on an occasion like today, you have the opportunity to share your story outside of your own bubble where you ALREADY KNOW EVERYBODY LOVES YOU –

“They probably think you’re full of shit … not a good person … have no SUBSTANCE … or just that your story is actually BORING, and who the hell do you even think you are?!”

I’m sure it’s not just me who still has these sort of thoughts of self-doubt!

Who automatically somehow assumes that people won’t LIKE her … or at least won’t GET her …

I guess, for women and men like you and I, we grow up used to not being understood, and to a degree we always carry it around in some way; that knowledge that we are DIFFERENT. We see the world differently. We want different things. We want it all! And? We know we can have it.

We live our lives in a certain way which most people WILL never understand, and don’t even WANT to understand, and while we obviously CELEBRATE being this person much of the time, there are also still those times when it’s SCARY.

Whether it’s fear of not being understood, or being judged, by your partner, your family, your friends, those closest to you, or it’s fear of strangers not getting you, not understanding your passion, your message, your intent, whatever it is, it’s a CHOICE to allow that stuff to rule you or not.

I think that showing the world who you really are, and giving yourself permission to BE all that you are – the good, the bad, the random, the badass, the crazy, the downright mad; ALL of it – is critical to success and TRUE fulfilment, but I also think it’s a daily fucking practice.

It’s human nature to hide. To pull back. To self-protect. And often we automatically fail to express our true selves because we’re scared it’s too much, or not appropriate, or that we’ll be told off or judged. Kicked out of the herd!

I feel these things as much as the next person. EVERY leader does; EVERY successful entrepreneur questions themselves continually, and, if they’re doing a good job at standing up for what they actually stand for then they’ll also find themselves FREQUENTLY feeling that slightly nauseating feeling of wondering if they’ve gone too far … if they should have said that … published that … agreed to that.

And then?

They keep going 🙂

Because it’s just what we DO, isn’t it?!

I always say to people that in the end you’re going to give into being you ANYWAY, so you might as well just do so now.

Let’s get real here:

No matter how damn scary it is to put the real you out there, and ‘not give a fuck’ about what anybody has to say about it, isn’t it SO much scarier to imagine a life where you let fear rule you and you NEVER go all in?!

Here’s what else:

It is literally impossible to get ‘being you’ wrong.

You can’t screw it up. Even when sometimes it seems you HAVE screwed it up, it’s always just exactly the lesson you needed for that time, and ultimately it is what you CHOSE so therefore it was right.

Speaking your truth, being you, standing up for what you stand for and standing against what you don’t, these are all things which can ONLY set you free.

And I guess it’s up to you if you want to believe that or not … you’re certainly welcome to believe that success requires you to be SOMEONE YOU’RE NOT …. but good fucking luck playing life THAT way!

In the end, it’s VERY black and white –

You either go all in to live the life you were born for, and you REFUSE to let your fear pave the way, or?

You get out now.

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