How To Deal When You Feel Anxious, Scared, Overwhelmed And Like The Sky Is Falling In!

This morning I felt scared, apprehensive, and as though I didn’t really want to face into the day because of all there is packed IN to it.

I just returned from 3 weeks of VERY intense travel and fame / business / wealth expansion. I had an epic freaking time and seriously some of the BIGGEST shit in my business so far went down. I also did precisely fuck all of my normal business activities most of the time; despite averaging around 3 hours sleep a night and mostly because I was working!

Things got left behind.
My inbox / desktop / catch up list is horrifying to behold.
I don’t think ANYBODY has ever had so many PMs waiting to be answered (I’m that freaking famous haha!)
And now, today, I have to get back on a plane again after only flying back in yesterday and focusing rightly on FAMILY, so I don’t even have a full catch up day!!

Quite honestly? As I walked down to the cafe where I am now, up at 430am this morning and feeling GOOD, I felt that sense of PRESSURE building up in me.

Am I going to get on top of things?
Will people think badly of me because I haven’t got back to them yet?
Will I hit my money goals this week when my focus has been, well, NOT especially focused?
Am I going to fall asleep mid way through it all because my body doesn’t know where the frick it is?
Do I even WANT to do any of this and can’t I just go to some kind of all-day Bikram yoga retreat??!

I started dragging my feet, basically making up my mind in ADVANCE that this day was going to be tough, that people were going to be annoyed at me and that I wasn’t going to hit my goals.

REALLY fucking helpful state of mind; I don’t have to tell you!

So now I sit here, an hour later, after doing first my journaling and then writing THIS, and I want to tell you how I deal with this shit.

I want to tell you exactly how to DEAL when you feel scared. When it’s all too much. When you feel that impending crushing pressure of everything that lies ahead of you today and don’t know if you CAN.

But before we kick this post off let me just ask you ONE tiny question and if you look closely at my picture with this post you might just see you’re not the first person I’ve asked it of this morning:

{stern tone of voice}

When has it EVER been useful to you to walk around feeling anxious, scared, overwhelmed or like the freaking sky is about to fall in if you don’t personally hold it aloft?

Oh what’s that now?

NEVER?

Okay then!

Side note: if you thought this was going to be a compassionate post about how I KNOW business / life / leaving the house can be terrifying and just.too.much, think again.

This is going to be a KICK YOUR ASS post about choosing the emotional state you need in order to feel fucking amazing, rule the world, and get the job DONE.

And here is the truth:

Everybody feels that way sometimes.
I feel that way sometimes.
The MOST successful people in the world feel that way sometimes.

And I can tell you HANDS DOWN that for each and every ONE of us it is never – never EVER ever – going to be of use to walk around entertaining those emotions.

It’s not going to make you money to feel that way.
It’s not going to help you attract your ideal clients.
It’s sure as fuck not going to positively impact your food or workout choices; the way you take care of yourself.
It’s PROBABLY not going to be a great advantage in how you should up and behave in your relationships.
And it’s DEFINITELY not going to be something you look back on and CONGRATULATE yourself for allowing the extended wallowing!

Is it?!

So here is what you do.

When you feel scared.
When it all feels too much.
When you feel that impending sense of EVERYTHING THAT LIES BEFORE YOU and you don’t know if you can / don’t really want to / just want to run and hide.

You roll up your sleeves. And you get to fucking work and move THROUGH it, but first – and critically – you do this.

You write out how you want to feel instead.

At least a few times a week a client (any client; I don’t mean one single person repeatedly haha) reaches out to me saying they need help, they’re freaking out, they can’t get their head in the game and they don’t WANT to!

Wanna know something?

I felt that way too this morning. REALLY. I mean, I know I already told you that but I also know it’s easy to look at people you know to be successful and assume that it’s easier for them.

Well, let me tell you something:

It gets HARDER the more successful you become! I know – I am a bucket of fun this morning! But really – there is more pressure. You have greater responsibility. There’s more at stake. There are more people waiting on you. You have more to prove, maintain, grow on.

When you’ve NOT made it, it’s far easier to give in and blame circumstance.

When you’ve PROVEN yourself (to yourself), many times over, you flat out KNOW there is no excuse and that the onus is fully on you.

So if you WANT TO BE ALL THE WAY SUCCESSFUL, here is what you need to know:

THERE’S NO EXCUSE AND IT’S ALL ON YOU! Aka? YOU CAN DO ANYTHING!

Now if that ain’t some fired up asskickery to get you in your power state, I don’t know what is!

And also, by the way: you already ARE successful so just think about how you pull your shit together in the areas you already fully KNOW you rock at, when you at times go off track, and then apply that shit over to business / money / etc.

The flat out reality is it is NEVER going to serve you to embrace feelings of fear and scarcity, so why would you DO that to yourself?

Instead, quite simply, re-write it.

Face into your fear. ADMIT it and feel it.

And then MOVE THE FUCK ON FROM IT.

Write out, as many times as it takes.

I want to feel ________
I choose to feel _______

And then move into:

I NOW feel _______
I am ___________

You can literally change your mindset about YOU within the space of a few minutes.

This morning I went from scared, overwhelmed, heavy to empowered, writing this, knowing it will HELP someone, knowing I will then GO ABOUT MY DAY and do what matters and have a damn fine doing it, within less time than it took to finish half a coffee.

And I drink coffee FAST 🙂

So when you feel personally responsible for keeping the entire world spinning –

And you don’t know if you even WANT to let alone can –

Stop.

And simple decide:

Is this how I want today to go down?

And if yes, then cool, you’ll fit RIGHT in and you can tell everyone how tired and stressed and OVERLOADED you are, but if no?

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